Divorce is a harsh word for everyone. The person who used to be nearer and dearest to you becomes stranger to you. Fifty percent of marriages end in divorce. The highest rate of divorce is in the United States, and family life suffers from divorce. Most children get affected by this. It's a very emotional stage, especially when you have been in an excellent and lovely relationship with each other and put your whole energy to keep your family united. You tried hard to keep yourself in control, but still, you ended up in tears. It seems to be the biggest fear of the world. For a while, you become unaware of everything. Your nights were sleepless. You didn't feel hungry. In short, you forget that you are surviving. You have lots of fear about your divorce. First, your mind is not able to accept the separation from your spouse. Secondly, you have to think about securing your finance. Thirdly if you have children, you will think about their future and their feelings, and there is a fear of how people around you will react. You become so much emotional at this stage.
You cannot pull yourself out from the impeccable memories. The sweet relation you have shared and the perfect couple compliments from other people run through your mind, making you more wretched. But remember that it's only a relation which has ended up, not your life. You can't spend your life in someone's memory, so no need to ruin your whole life for all this. Think positively. You do not deserve a partner who is not sincere with you and doesn't care about you. Who doesn't know the meaning of love & family and what the marriage is? Maybe this is a good chance for you. You will meet someone who will understand and who will show you what real love is. Who will protect you and will always be with you? Now the thing is how to beat all these divorce fear, how to deal with all these situations, and how to show the world how brave and courageous you are. Here are some tips which will help to beat your fear. Remember, fear is just an unrealistic feeling. (False evidence appearing real) and you have to get control over it.
1. Stop running away from reality.
Your heart will not accept the fact of your divorce, but your mind can. You have to stop running away from reality. As a long time, you will take to accept the reality as much depressed you will feel. And you face the truth as soon you can overcome it. It is a bitter truth, and we have to deal with it.
2. List down your inside fears which are disturbing you.
To keep yourself away from depression, you need to jot down a list of all the concerns you have after your divorce. Whatever it is, no matter how stupid it sounds. It would be best if you were honest with you. There are different fears like
And other fears like this. After you jot down all these, list down all the solutions that come to mind under these fears.
3. Your goals reduce your doubts.
After accepting the reality, the second thing you have to do is to set your goals. Now how will you go to spend your life? Set realistic goals can be achieved. List the downtime period, too, that you think you need for achieving each goal. Make strategies for how you are going to achieve these goals.
4. Mentally relax and physically healthy.
As you are passing through the tough time of your life, you need to be mentally relaxed. Give some chill to your mind, take enough sleep, and keep yourself away from other problems. Take healthy food; be careful about your diet. And drink enough water to keep yourself refreshed. If your mind and body are healthy and relaxed, you will be able to make proper decisions.
5. Your relationship in the future.
Of course, it's your life, so you are the owner to decide for yourself. It's up to you how you are going to spend the rest of your life. Will you marry again? No need to think about this too early, take your time, it's never too late & if you believe that you will now never be able to trust others and you will not marry again. Then this will be a wrong scenario. It doesn't mean that all men/ women are the same. You have to build up your confidence, and you have to try once more. As stated earlier that the one who will understand you will do anything for you.
6. Positivity leads to a definite conclusion.
If you will think negatively about your divorce and you will only cry on your relation. You will get nothing. You have to realize that you can alone handle things. You do not need other's support. You have a lot of options available, and they are better than this. And if you can face this crucial stage alone than, you can do anything. You can fight with all the harsh circumstances and make your life and your children experience good.